matt grant

changing people

You can’t make other people change.

You can’t make them behave in a certain way. However much you believe that it might be to their advantage, it simply won’t work. You have to free yourself from any expectations for their actions.

Instead of caring whether they do what you think they should, you simply have to care that they are fulfilled. Fulfilled and happy according to whatever their definition of success is.

You only have control over your own decisions.

So concentrate on those.

And if someone asks for your advice, then you can give it. But with complete detachment from the outcome.

This is the way I see it. Use it or don’t, it’s up to you.