Most people don’t challenge us.
We’re good enough for them and that’s what matters.
But occasionally we come across people who stop and make us think. Those who really challenge our beliefs and our ideas. Who are willing to give us their true opinion, to be open about what they feel. They care sufficiently that they can confidently speak their mind without worrying about what impact it will have on our impression of them.
This sort of perspective is so valuable when it comes to personal growth. Analysing our own thought process as well of those around us gives us an incredible opportunity to expand our self-knowledge.
Look at these relationships from both sides.
Firstly, consider it from your own point of view. Do you have people in your life who you can rely on to be honest with you? To tell you how they see it even if it’s not really what you want to hear? Do you respect their thoughts even if in the moment they don’t make you happy?
Then, explore the reverse. Look at it from the point of view of everybody you know, of everyone you communicate with. Are you always honest with them? When given the opportunity, are you frank and sincere? Or do you tell them what you think they want to hear?
The manner in which you communicate and how that varies on a situational basis comes down to personal preference.
You have to make that judgement for yourself. Is the potential social cost worth it? What about the benefits? And not just the perceived benefits for the other person. Examine how the choice affects your own state. Is it worth the time commitment? What about the mental capacity you’re using?
Next time someone asks for your opinion, be honest. And if you’re not prepared to be honest with them, don’t deceive yourself as well. Make it a consious decision and acknowledge why you’ve made that choice.